Films with Obsessive Love Stories

Here are films with stories about women and men who have gone off the deep end from love that ended or was unreciprocated. If you want more details about these movies just go to and put the titles in the search box and a synopsis and page full of reviews will come up.
So, if you’re thinking of compulsively calling “That Man” pop one of these films into your VCR or DVD and maybe you’ll change your mind! A star next to it means it’s one of my favorites.

The best compulsive phone calling scene in cinematic history

Legally Blonde(2001)
When a sorority queen is dumped by her boyfriend, she decides to follow him to law school to get him back and, once there, learns she has more legal savvy than she ever imagined. Beyond all of the comedy there is some serious issues at the heart of this film

Matchpoint (2006)
This is a captivating and suspenseful movie, dramatizing where obsessive love can lead. It all starts when former tennis-pro Chris Wilton (played by Jonathan Rhys-Meyers) marries Chloe Hewett, the daughter of a wealthy businessman. Then when Chris meets Nola (played by Scarlet Johansson) a much deeper passion is stirred. But when their affair threatens Chris’s new found luxurious lifestyle, Chris begins to consider a drastic solution.

Dance with a Stranger (2001)
This is a true story about Ruth Ellis who became the last woman to be hanged in England. Miranda Richardson plays Ellis, the hostess of a “glorified brothel” who plans for a better life with her young son until she meets David (Rupert Everett) who’s ambivalent behavior towards her causes her to take some drastic actions- like murder. This movie explores many emotions and class issues surrounding her crime.

Crazy Love (2007)
This fascinating documentary is the true story of an obsessive bizarre romance between Bert Pugach and Linda Riis who were dating in the 1950’s. Linda broke up with Bert when she found out he was married. When Bert found out she had eventually gotten engaged he hired some thugs to throw lye on her face and blinded her. After almost two decades in prison, Pugach emerged as obsessively in love with Riss as ever, continued persuing her and they eventually married. This unbelievably true story is slowly unveiled through archival footage, interviews with Pugach, Riss, many of their friends and various media figures including Jimmy Breslin, who followed the twists and turns of this romantic saga as it played out in the courts and papers.

Notes on a Scandal (2006)
A psychological thriller about two women who cultivate a friendship. Dame Judi Dench plays school teacher Barbara Covett, a lonely, older middle aged woman. Cate Blanchett plays Sheba Hart, an art teacher and married woman with two children. Clearly yearning for an even closer friendship, Barbara (Dench) is startled to discover Sheeba (Blanchett) is carrying on a sexual liaison with one of her 15-year old students. Instead of turning her in, though, she uses the knowledge to gain psychological control over Blanchett. What follows is a battle of wills as the truth begins to emerge--both about the scandal and about Dench's ulterior motives.

Asylum (2006)
A psychological thriller about a passionate and erotic obsession that spins out of control. A repressed psychiatrist’s wife (1950’s) played by Natasha Richardson encounters an inmate (an artist confined for the gruesome murder of his wife in a jealous rage) at a maximum security asylum finds herself romantically and sexually drawn to him.

Looking for Mr. Goodbar (1977)
Based on the mid-70’s novel by Judith Rossner (which itself was based on a true story). Theresa (played by Diane Keaton) is a successful teacher of deaf children during the day who spends her nights cruising bars. Her craving first for sex but later also for drugs leads into increasing demeaning and dangerous situations completely at odds with her daytime commitment to her children. In the midst of the sexual revolution, she discovers her own appetite for carnal pleasure – but tries to keep it physical, avoiding emotional entanglement, until she meets Mr. Really Wrong.

Possessed (1947)
Joan Crawford plays Louise Howell who suffers through a one sided love affair with David Sutton, an eternal bachelor who is not willing to commit to an ongoing relationship and treats Louise with a dismissive attitude that feeds her inner uncertainty. Although Louise eventually marries someone else, her obsession with David never leaves and when he comes back into her life the old attraction that Louise thought she had buried, returns with tragic results. This was one of Joan Crawfords best performances of her career. This is a captivating movie about a woman who is obsessed with a man who doesn’t return her passion and can’t let go leading to her self-destruction. Some of her masochistic, groveling scenes seem so real, it’s almost painful to watch. This movie in now out on DVD, which you can buy off of Amazon or you can try to catch it on Turner Movie Classics cable channel (TMC).
Please do not confuse this movie with the one starring Clark Gable, which is also titled “Possessed”. This movie’s ambivalent man “David” was played by Van Heflin.

Love The Hard Way (2001)
If you want to see a great independent film about a woman who falls for, becomes fixated on and tries to reform the ultimate bad boy you can't miss "Love The Hard Way!" Adrian Brody is electrifying as the smooth operator, streetwise, con man, with a poet's soul who seduces and falls in love with graduate student Charlotte Ayanna. Brody's perfect characterization as the bad boy/Ambivalent Man will definitely entertain you for a couple of hours. So the next time you want to compulsively Call That Man, pop "Love The Hard Way" into your DVD or VCR, microwave some popcorn and watch this flick instead.
It'll definitely be more gratifying!

Gaslight (1944)
Ingrid Bergman stars as a meek, uncertain heiress courted and married in a whirlwind romance by the debonair Charles Boyer, but when they move back into her childhood home she begins losing her grip on reality and becomes convinced that her husband is trying to drive her insane. This movie teaches women why it’s important for women to hold on to their own reality. It’s from this movie that the expression “gaslighting” comes from in terms of emotional abuse.

*The Story of Adelle H- (based on a true story)foreign-subtitled

Tie Me Up, Tie Me Down-(foreign-subtitled-with Antonio Banderas before he was famous)

Vanilla Sky

Swept Away (original 1975 version)

Camille Claudel (based on a true story)foreign-subtitle

*Fatal Attraction (need I say more?)

Till Murder Do Us Part:The Betty Broderick story (based on a true story)

*Splendor In The Grass- a fantastic love and loss story from the 60’s starring a very young Warren Beatty and Natalie Wood

Anna Karenina-(there are 6 versions of this movie)

Of Human Bondage (1934)classic

The Blue Angel- (1930)classic

Boxing Helena

Endless Love

The Piano Teacher(foreign- subtitled)

Hysterical Blindness (2002)

*Play Misty for Me

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